Dear Friends,
I will be sharing my notes from the book called “Success Built to Last”.
The successful people choose the way what matters to them. How to reach a meaningful life is their main motto.
This process is the combination of meaning, thought and the action.
The big successes are the result of the ordinary people doing extraordinary things that matter for them.
A real success in a life and work, brings personal fulfilment and lasting relationships and makes a difference in the world they live in.
There are three elements of success:
1- Meaning: This is something you are passionate about.
2- Thougtstyle: Highly developed sense of accountability, audacity, passion and responsible optimism. When you have the right thought style, you will create new ideas even you are not working on the subject.
3- Actionstyle: Enduringly successful people always on act. They don’t get shy or resistant.
Meaning is the first element.
The only place where you find success before work is in the dictionary. (Mary V.Smith)
Abraham Lincoln said the pessimists find difficulty in every opportunity but optimists find opportunity in every difficulty.
To find your mission in life is to discover the intersection between your hearth’s deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger. (Frederick Beekner)
If I see something I don’t like, I try to change it. If I can’t change it I change my position to look at it.
If you have the meaning of your business, the reward for the doing is the doing.
The successful people find solutions to their problems while not dealing the problem directly. They use the peripheral vision where they find the solution by not directly looking at the problem.
Peripheral thinking is useful when you do something different; pray, sport etc.
Google encourages their people to use their %15-20 of their time by dealing with different jobs.
The purpose of the life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honourable, to be compassionate, to have difference that you have lived and lived well.
Thought Style is the second element.
There are silent screams inside our body that tell us what we should abandon the way we do for a meaningful job. These are mainly under the four elements:
1- It is not a good career.
2- Bright objects such as allowances, transportation, accommodations covered packages are all driving us away.
3- There is seduction of competence. The surrounding people might hinder us to do something meaningful.
4- There is the tyranny of OR. There are choices and some of them might have adverse consequences for your loved ones. The enduringly successful people are not in different between two choices. Their commitment to the others are also for their self commitment. Your time is limited. Don’t waste it living someone else’s life.
Self esteem is highly overrated. There are many criminals have high trust on themselves.
Builders insisted self-esteem comes from trying and failing, trying and failing then succeeding with small gains and doing the work a little better each time.
Gain is the edge of loss; loss is the hearth of the gain. Having many difficulties perfects the being. Having no difficulties ruins the being. (Lao Tzu)
Losers call it failure, the builders call it a learning.
Builders claim that it is your decision whether to be a victim or a beneficiary of what has happened so far.
Third element of success is the action style.
This is one of the best lessons from human history. You may or may not blame for what happens to you but either way you are responsible for doing something about it.
Serendipity comes to those who do their homework and have the courage to do reality checks to determine whether or not they are still on course to achieve what actually matters about their goals.
Naked conversations are important. Disagreement is refreshing when two men lovingly desire to compare their views to find out truth. Controversy is wretched when it is only an attempt to prove another wrong. (Frederick Robertson)
When two people always agree, then one is unnecessary.
